The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations.This
is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others. Tempering
your expectations of other people will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering,in
both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter.
We have a duty to make our life simple for ourselves and it's the high timeYOU;
Stop expecting them to agree with you
You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about. Don't let the opinions of others make you forget that. You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others, nor should you feel that others are here to live up to yours. In fact, the more you approve of your own decisions in life, the less approval you need from everyone else.
You have to dare to be yourself, and follow your own intuition, however frightening or strange that may feel or prove to be. Don't compare yourself to others. Don't get discouraged by their progress or success. Follow your own path and stay true to your own purpose. Success is ultimately about spending your life happily in your own way.
Stop expecting them to respect you more than you respect yourself
True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles. It's about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon it. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself.
Today, look at yourself in the mirror and say, "I love you, and from now on I'm going to act like it."It's important to be nice to others, but it's even more important to be nice to yourself. When you practice self-love and self-respect, you give yourself the opportunity to be happy. When you are happy, you become a better friend, a better family member, and a better YOU!
Stop expecting them to fit your idea of who they are
Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves. When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM.
Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for whom you want them to be. We don't know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful. Every human being is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it. The more you get to know someone, the more you will be able to look beyond their appearance and see the beauty of who they truly are.
Stop expecting them to suddenly change
If there's a specific behavior someone you care about has that you're hoping disappears over time, it probably won't. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do.
For the most part though, you can't change people and you shouldn't try. Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them. It might sound harsh, but it's not. When you try to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don't try to change them, when you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are, they gradually change in the most beautiful way,because what really changes is the way you see them.