We are all used to the cliche that no man is an island and that unity is strength. While in most cases this is the truth, fortunately or unfortunately some lessons and journeys can only be navigated when we are alone and all by ourselves. How else can we get to truly know ourselves if we don't spend time alone introspecting and meditating on what makes us tick as individuals?
It may not be the worst case scenario anyway as some of the most eye-opening life lessons can only be learned when flying solo!
Being strong for yourself
As easy as it may sound, mental health illnesses such as depression, suicidal thoughts, schizophrenia and so much more would not be as prevalent as they are in modern times if at all being strong was not one of the necessities we need to incorporate in our personal lives. This does not mean never failing or shutting down our feelings, but it means being able to dust up ourselves after the thunderstorms that life throws at us and get things moving. We need to be aware of what is in our control and let go of what we can't control. For sure life is going to test us in ways we could not expect, and you will never know how strong you are until it's the only option left.
This has never been taught in any school or college and will never be not even by those close to you so if you don't know how to accept yourself unconditionally, then you are in for a rude awakening in this cruel life. Not everybody will have your best interest at heart, so you have to take full responsibility of being there for yourself at all times. This does not mean being too selfish but some degree of it will only guarantee your needs are met. Loving yourself also involves acknowledging your flaws and limitations alongside your strengths and virtues. This will help you know what kind of friend and spouse to incorporate in your life either to compliment your strengths or take care of your vulnerabilities. Moreso, you will be able to watch your back and take caution when need be thus avoiding toxic relationships and fake acts of love.
No matter how good a person you are, someone out there is not going to like you whatsoever. Whether it's in your career, business or relationships, no one is immune to rejection and the sooner we start accepting it as part of life, the better we are able to persevere and quickly move on. You will find that living in denial is the major cause of depression and subsequently a miserable life which could have been easily prevented by admitting that there is only much we can do, and we need to go where we are celebrated and not tolerated.
In the end you can never learn all these lessons to perfection as we sometimes backtrack and that's what makes us human after all. What's most important to know is that the school of life will always have something new to teach us every day.