Life is a duality in the sense that where there is love, there is heartbreak, where there is day, there is night, where there is laughter there are tears and ultimately where there is life, there is definitely death! We tend to pretend that death is only for the old, and so we live planning for the 'promised' future that only God knows when or if it will arrive. It's only when life-changing moments like for instance near death experiences or life-threatening illnesses strikes us is when we come to our senses and realize that all is vanity in the large scheme of things. Nowadays, unlike the past where it's mostly the old people who died, death is becoming increasingly common among the young generation, thanks to a variety or reasons ranging from lifestyle diseases, mental illness, technological advancements among other modern problems and the sooner we embrace death as a possible reality anytime, any day, the better we will be at making prudent life decisions from an early age. One of the ways to prepare for the worst is by looking at the most common regrets that people on their death beds have, in order to avoid repeating the same mistakes. The paramount regret that the dying have is wishing that they had lived their lives true to themselves and not to the expectation of others be it family, relatives, friends or even the society at large. This has almost become a cliche but the hardest part of it is actually having the courage to quiet out the outside 'noise' and believe in our ability to choose what's best for our souls. We live in a society that puts a certain expectation on us to live up to the so-called accepted cultural standards, right from when we start going to school, to having a degree, career, money, power and the laundry list goes on. This turns us into people pleasers where we sweep our true heart desires under the carpet and strive for many years on end to achieve the outward view of success until we approach our last moments in the world and then boom! Reality strikes us. We stare at death agonizingly knowing that our true talents and desires will never light up the world. No wonder they say the greatest gold mine on earth is found at the cemetery! Secondly, it's only in the last days that we treasure how personal relationships were important in our lives. For the most part of our lives, we spend it grinding week in week out, with little time left to create meaningful friendships outside of work whether it's creating time for our kids or paying an old friend a visit just to check up on them. Actually kids are often seen as a hindrance or a liability to achieving success, but they are the ones that will light up our old age besides being the trustees to our legacy when we are gone. No matter how hard you work, there will always be unfinished business around, and you may even be replaced at the work place even before your coffin is lowered down to your graveyard. You will certainly not have wished that you could have worked longer by then. Therefore, it's only fair that we build emotional connections with our loved ones as much as we have to work hard to earn a living. Last but not least, it's only on the deathbed that we wished we had taken good care of our health whether it's physical, mental or spiritual. This is because we spend almost our entire lifetime worrying about the future instead of having the time to enjoy the present moment. This results in stress, depression, anxiety and as a result affects the health of our physical bodies as well. We either think too much about the past and its memories or imagine too much about the future that may never arrive, ignoring what's most important which is the current life experience that we live. While it's good to always want to achieve more success in life, we need to appreciate where we are at present and admire the beauty of our surroundings, for instance by taking a nature walk in the woods while listening to the chirping of the birds. This will help a great deal in having the sense of gratitude about the simplicity of life, in the knowledge that it could all be gone in a second!