It's not rocket science to know that parenting comes with enormous sacrifices and responsibilities sometimes beyond what is humanly possible in the quest to raise decent human beings for the next generation. Most of us dive straight into parenting without the necessary expertise and knowledge of how to go about it. More so, some start raising kids even before healing from their own childhood traumas that their parents inflicted on them, thus repeating the cycle unknowingly and this is where most of the generational curses come from. However, with the right mindset and attitude, one can play a great role in breaking down the generational cycles of poor parenting by adapting to the needs of the current generation. The kids of today are very fragile in nature, and they need softer voices and deeper parental affection in order to get the message across unlike in the older generation where orders backed by the rod did most of the talking. Recent studies have proven that children with more affectionate parents have exhibited a higher self-esteem, improved academic performance in school, fewer psychological and behavior problems and a greater ability to face the challenges of life as compared to children from the less affectionate parents. This is not to mean that the disciplinary role of parents should be taken out of the table but how it's implemented is paramount to the well-being of the child. For instance, when carrying out punishment to the kids for the wrong they have done, it's important for parents to first avoid doing it publicly or impulsively as this will cause the child to be severely embarrassed and angry. The child may grow up to be an indecisive adult who relies on the opinions of the majority instead of making independent decisions. This is not just limited to punishment but also avoid rewarding them publicly as they will easily become arrogant and develop a superiority complex over other people and that will eventually work against them further down the road. Parents should also motivate their children to grow up to be the best version of themselves instead of what their parents desire. This is a common mistake of most parents who consciously or unconsciously try to live vicariously through their children often as a result of their own failed dreams or low self-esteem. They end up having huge expectations of their kids and even if they meet them, they remain unsatisfied. This kind of pressure could backfire big time and cause massive depression on the kids leading to unforeseen consequences like suicide as they feel like they are trapped in a cage and cannot express themselves freely. Knowing that parenting is about the kids and not one's own selfish aspirations is the first step to raising happy and fulfilled children who will go on to conquer the world on their own. While there is no perfect way of parenting or any manual that shows the steps to the right style of parenting, personal responsibility and commitment to improving how we parent our kids cannot be underestimated and it's even better to take time for ourselves and heal from past emotional wounds, traumas and broken relationships before committing to having kids as this will only be fair to both you and the newborn in the long run. We all were not born as parents thus parenting is a huge job in itself and a sensitive environment to navigate through, so we can only get better in the way we raise our kids if at all we are to have a great society for the next generation and beyond.