When one hears the word 'scarcity', the obvious idea that pops up is money. While this is true in most cases, the bottom line is mindset. Whether we lack enough money, health, friends or anything else, it starts with how we think of ourselves and the world around us in general. For this reason, it's crucial to watch out for the patterns of thoughts and feelings that bring about the misery in our lives whether we consciously know it or not. The 4 main signs of scarcity thinking to look out for are:
1. Being envious of the success of others
What is the first reaction when you hear someone has been promoted or won an award? To be honest it's not all the time that we feel happy about it as we would have wished it was us winning instead. However, we tend to trash talk about others by downplaying it as pure luck. This kills gratitude and the potential of working hard in order to achieve the same level of success. It's therefore important we realize that there is enough sunshine for everybody and instead of being needlessly jealous, we need to channel that envy and use it as motivation for improving ourselves as well.
2. Believing in permanent Fate
Sometimes we may be born in totally under-privileged circumstances like for instance a poor family or even as an orphan. We end up believing we are doomed and our situation cannot get any better more so when we encounter others with a better background. This kind of fixed mindset is probably the most self-defeating habit we can have as it kills our drive to succeed even before we tried. We have to know that nothing in life is permanent and no matter how traumatizing events can be thrown to us in one way or the other, we are stronger than we think we are, and we can will ourselves to a good space inspite of the sad nature of our surroundings.
3. Underspending or Overspending
They say show me how you spend your money and I will show you your priorities. Most of us treat money as a scarce resource that is hard to find hence becoming harder to be generous with it. We become very frugal with expenditure and even if an investment idea is proposed to us, we become hesitant to risk our 'hard-earned' money. On the other hand, we may feel that we are not at all good with money, so we spend it anyhow when it comes without budgeting or planning well enough because we are poor with money after all. Financial literacy is key to eradicating this kind of behavior if at all we want to achieve financial freedom in the future.
4. Negative Social Circle
Birds of the same feather flock together and if there is one thing that influences your decision more than you think, it's the kind of company that you spend the most time with. If you hang around 5 poor people, you will be the sixth and vice versa. This is not just about money but even all kinds of character in your friends circle. You need to constantly evaluate your social circle and cut out those who you have outgrown in any aspect of your life. It does not matter for how long you have known someone, but one thing I can guarantee you is that energy rubs off people whether it's positive or negative. If at all you are the negative minded guy, challenge yourself by associating with people who will lift you up and if you have an abundance mindset, cut off people who will bring you down with their negativity. This life is hard, and we cannot afford anything but mutually beneficial relationships.
To sum it all, the journey to self-improvement is a personal endeavor, and we ought to analyze our upbringing and daily lives in order to access what we need to improve on as what you reveal, you heal!