Many times we get angry when we feel victimized by the actions of others and situations around us. While it's perfectly okay to feel angry just like it's okay to feel happy, anger tends to lean more on the negative side and if it goes out of control, we risk self-destructing from the bitterness and hate that accompanies it. Some tips to help control ourselves when we get angry include:
Do some exercise
Taking some time off and doing some short exercises like taking a walk, riding a bike, swimming or taking part in yoga helps in calming down the nerves. This short break, besides the movement of the limbs, calms down our mind and body, giving us time to access the situation and respond to it objectively. You can even count 1 to 10 before responding and if you will still be angry, make it 20,30 or even 100!
When we are angry, we are tempted to go on a verbal diarrhea spree that is mostly abusive in nature. This is the catalyst for most conflicts that occur amidst us because we end up talking faster than we think thus rubbing others the wrong way in the process. Being silent in these tough situations as hard as it can be, is the only way to calm down and respond to the situation rationally instead of just reacting needlessly.
Write a journal
Writing down our thoughts is very underrated in this smartphone era but its benefits are immense. Projecting your angry thoughts onto a piece of paper helps you in observing the situations that led you into anger while at the same time calming you down in the process. You may even laugh off the situation later when you go back and analyze what went wrong. Just make sure as you write use the affirmation 'I' to avoid complaining or blaming others for your misery. For instance you can write, 'I feel hurt by their comments yesterday'. This brings focus to yourself and your feelings instead of pointing fingers at others thus speeding up the healing process when you get in touch with your own feelings.
No matter how sad or negative a situation can be, there is a possibility that it could have been even worse than it currently is. Try to look for the silver lining behind every negative situation and be grateful for other positives in your life. This will help in neutralizing the negative situation better as you will believe that it too shall come to pass.
In the end, we as humans are just tourists in this world and as short as life can be, it's pointless to harbor resentment and grudges towards one another as this slows down our progress in life. It only saves time and energy to forgive those who have wronged as we have also wronged others as well. Compassion and a sense of empathy will help a great deal as we navigate this human experience together. Good luck!